We learn constraints from our parents.
From my dad, I learnt to be too careful. Always think of the risks first, and keep the risks in mind first and foremost.
From him, decisions, like whether to go travel, tended to go like this: there is a decision to make, let's consider all the reasons not to do it (mostly risks) and then either do it too little, or not do it at all.
In an aggressive world, this may not be the optimal way. I did miss out a lot as a result.
Fixing this problem can be straightforward.
But this is a topic for another article.
At the same time, it can also lead to many side-effects.
1. One can become a stress junkie. This comes from getting great results from taking risks and stressing.
2. Becoming withdrawn. When we consistently avoid taking risks, it is possible to stop growing and start shrinking.
Today, I aim to stop this once and for all by changing my thinking, and replace it with
"When I am faced with a choice to continue what I'm doing and taking a risk, I will listen to my gut feeling, weigh the pros and cons for a dedicated 5 minutes at most, and take the risk if there is no permanent risk, physical or unmanageable danger to me."
At the same time, I find that continuous sport, down time and education is really key to providing that feeling of moving forwards, that makes it easier to move forwards.
For that, I have been walking a minimum of 10K steps a day and doing at least some sort of exercise everyday no matter how busy I seem to be.
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