SIS Class of 2010 Reunion - 2014

I have finally caved and decided to write this post.

Reunions are pretty daunting.

Before the Reunion, I did some "research".

http://www.buzzfeed.com/laraparker/stages-of-being-invited-to-your-high-school-reunion#.pbO8K1zAjo

http://greeblehaus.com/2013/08/guest-post-how-i-avoided-high-school-reunion-anxiety.html

I was anxious. Are people going to be better than me, in my own eyes? Then I looked back at myself and saw how I wasn't the person I said I wanted to be back when I graduated. I thought I would be a lot more.

Here's what I learnt.

People regress to the mean.

Without perfect information, we can always assume that people will lie close to the mean. And most observations confirm this.
My fears of being inferior are generally unfounded.

Some people seem to have found their thing, most haven't. Like most people in their 20s (so I've been told), we are exploring, trying stuff out and having fun.

You are mortal. Enjoy it while it lasts.

Even though I didn't personally know the classmates who have passed away, it's certainly and truly broken my sense of immortality. 

Success, failure, happiness, sadness, anger are only ever temporary states. Enjoy everything life throws at you, and do what you want to do, what only you can do.

Same goes for reunions. If I enjoy it, or I don't enjoy it, it's still going to go on. 

Being normal is a f***ing waste of time.

It's been 4.5 years since the great waste of time known as school, for which this blog is named after. I learnt a lot, experienced a lot, but it's nothing compared to the odd homeschooling folk. Why be in class when you could be fulfilling your purpose for living, experiencing life instead of reading about it in a classroom? For example, there are home-schooled kids devoting time everyday to gymnastics classes. Since it takes at least 10,000 hours to become an expert at something, and being at school take 7 hours of productive time out of every day, school kids have 7 hours less time to do what they want to do.

And that's if the school kids even know what they want to do. Having followed a routine for the past 15+ years, coming out to the real world and having to set your own path gets daunting, especially for the shy and relatively sheltered.

Being given the freedom to set one's own course from the beginning means that by the 20s, they will be competent captains and sailors on the waters of life.

Comparing oneself to others is a 100% successful way to destroy self-worth and lose yourself.

Never compare yourself to others. There will always be someone better than you. Rather, look within yourself to find out why you do this. 

Oh, and also, there's no external solutions to emotional insecurity. One can try, as I have tried, but it'll always fly back in ones face until you learn this.

The 6 Pillars of Self-Esteem.

See soon-to-be linked article.

Conclusion

I guess this is the first of many reunions to come.

Live long and prosper!

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