It's Sunday, and I'd like to tell you a story.
I have a male friend who just put everything in in his girlfriend. He basically wouldn't spend any time with his guys again.
But one day, this girl goes abroad for studies. They promise to stay together for the duration of the two years.
And for a year, he stays put, and they have their long distance relationship.
Everything seems fine and happy until one day, while we're hanging out together, he takes a call.
She's breaking up with him!
And he comes and complains to me.
Wow, what were you doing when things were going well? And what did all that time texting go, when you could be having potentially life-changing conversations with your mates?
Don't turn your mates away, no matter how good the job is, or how awesome your GF is being to you. These things are always changing. They will aways serve their own self-interest first and foremost. Your boss is looking for revenue, profit, capital gains. Your GF is sizing you up to see if you're worth mating with, if you'll be a stable father and provider.
It is with semi-distant friends that had strong ties historically and now exist as weaker ties that have sentimental reasons to be empathetic and stick up for each other in the long run.
